April 13, 2013 by Diana M
Since I already wrote a post about 10 reasons why you should love being single, and one about 15 post breakup survival tips, I thought it would be time to write something for the other side: the relationship side. Of course there are so many more reasons why you should love being in a relationship, but I think it’s up to each and every one of us to find those unique reasons for being in that particular relationship.
1. That lovey-dovey feeling
We all know it, we all love it. It’s the butterflies in the stomach, the overly optimistic everything-is-wonderful view on the world, and the silly smiles on our faces from the moment we wake up and until the last moment when fall asleep. It’s that bubbly, warm, fuzzy, cozy feeling from deep within that is telling you that you love being with that special someone who loves being with you.
Let’s face it, cuddling is awesome. Except maybe for those people who don’t like cuddling; or those who like to sleep alone in their beds (I do feel sorry for them a bit, because their missing out on the awesomeness that cuddling is).
Knowing that you can curl up next to someone in bed at night, and feel safe, and warm, and well…cuddly, is a really good reason to be in a relationship. I mean, let’s just be honest here: how many of you out there cuddle or hold your pillow tight at night? How about your teddy bears? Don’t you dare lie now! You know you do it, because you know it’s awesome.
They say that the best things in life are unseen; that’s why we close our eyes when we kiss, laugh and dream 😉 But seriously now, without the physical affection, a relationship between two people is nothing more than a new level of the friendzone. This is what separates the friendship from the boyfriend-girlfriend stage.
And c’mon, what’s not to love about kissing? Especially when you find someone who enjoys the same pace as you do, and gives you goosebumps, fast heartbeats and butterflies. Oh la la!
4. That sense of security and belonging
When you get comfortable enough with someone and spend a lot of time with them, you start to open up and trust that sharing your dreams, quirks and your very own essence will not result in a possible heartbreak. When someone responds to that kind of vulnerability, you feel this sense of security, as if it’s safe to be you around that person.
You also have this feeling of belonging, like you just found someone who understands you and accepts you so completely, that no matter what kind of crazy laugh or bad case of snoring you might have, they’ll still love you and want to wake up next to you in the morning.
5. Common interests
You watch Game of Thrones? Oh my gosh, they do too! You love garlic sauce so much that you put it on everything? What do ya know: so does your crush! You like reading obscure books no one has ever heard of? Yup, they’ve already read them: twice!
Discovering what new thing you have in common with your partner is like a trip to Disney World all over again. You get so excited that someone else loves the same crazy things that you love, that you eventually end up spending hours upon hours talking about your common interests.
It’s like a constant feeling of euphoria when you’re in a relationship; at least in the honeymoon phase, when everything is all rainbows and butterflies. It’s true though, you feel like the entire world seems suddenly brighter and it’s as if there is nothing that you can’t do; like you have suddenly gained super powers and are ready to take on the world!
7. Surprises and presents
Relationships sometimes mean some really cool surprises and presents. Waking up to a cute text message, receiving pretty flowers, or maybe the new Starcraft game (Heart of the Swarm anyone?) could melt anybody’s heart. It’s the little things that bring so much joy in our lives, whether it’s a new mixtape from your crush, a love note left in your jacket, or a new Kinder Egg to complete your collection of minuscule toys.
8. Feeling wanted
Have you ever noticed that when you are in relationship, other people start looking at your differently? Like you’ve suddenly turned into a superstar and everybody wants a piece of you! You get friend requests from hot people you’ve never met before, sexy stares on the streets and people seem to be swarming around you at parties, begging for your phone number. But all of that doesn’t really matter, because all you really want is that person sitting next to you.
Weird enough though, when you’re single and looking, it’s like there is not one interested person on a 5 mile radius. How does that even happen?
Do I really need to get into this one? Noup, I think it’s one of those ’nuff said situations.
At the end of the day, as the Beatles like to say, all you need is love. And even if love comes in all shapes and sizes, this one is different. This one for some reason, makes you feel more alive and driven and passionate than the others. This type of love can make you feel like you’re on top of the world, but it also has the power to crush you to the ground. So don’t treat it lightly; relationships may be all butterflies and rainbows at the beginning, but they also require a lot of work. A lot of work.
So if you do find yourself being in love with your partner, make sure they know it too, so that you can built something really special, together.